Why don't some black men realize that the problems they are are with themselves?

Don't tell me I hate black men because I don't at all, I just don't understand the ones who push the stereotypes that black women are terrible so they date interracially when MOST bm/ww relationships fail within the first two years. They are the shortest lived interracial pairings in the U.S. So wouldn't this tell them that the problems they have are with THEMSELVES and stop trying to make it seem like black women are always to blame?